I have been contemplating this post for a few days now – trying to decide how to phrase what it is that I want to say. I just now came to the realization that it does not matter how I phrase it! It’s apt really that I came to this conclusion since the title of this particular entry is the continuation of “batteries not included”.
You see, my point is that – contrary to popular belief – our primary goals in life do not need to be dictated by the approval or the validation of others. I had a very interesting conversation with one of my students yesterday! When I asked her what her primary weakness is, she stated that it is her inability to tell other people NO and that she puts the needs and wishes of others over what she wants. In a perfect world, that may not be such a bad thing – to be truly selfless.
To seek validation and approval from others is not necessarily a bad thing but if every choice we make is based on whether someone else will approve or not is certainly not the healthiest. Not only that, but if our every choice in life is made based on if it makes others happy or not – what happens to our own identity? When we look in the mirror at the end of the day, who do we see staring back at us? Do we see our SELF or do we see the creation of a clone, created by the expectations that have been placed on us (and we have allowed)?
This journey I am undertaking to complete the 100 mile run in December at Brazos Bend is one I am actually working on right here and right now. I am reading every piece of literature I can get my hands on that is written by other endurance athletes who have completed 100 miles or more. In the blog entries or race reports of every runner who has completed a 100 mile endurance race it has been stated, or at least inferred, that there is a certain presence of mind needed to cross that finish line. There is a fire that must be banked within ones’ soul that even the darkest of nights and the vilest of thoughts cannot dampen.
That fire is one that cannot be stoked by the well wishes of others – though it is welcome fodder. It cannot be emboldened by the external validation we seek from others. No, the race to the finish must come from somewhere deep inside each individual runner. The “batteries” we need to travel on this journey must be charged by our own desire to finish. External validation is temporary. We need to have our own method of fueling our fire and keeping it banked.
When all else fails, look at the stories of courageous men and women who have come back from major catastrophes or severe bodily injuries to live absolutely AMAZING lives full of the fire to keep fighting for another day. I have met some of these people and they are truly inspirational to me – they help me fight through and keep my fire lit.
Where is your fire? What charges your batteries?!!
Until next time………peace